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Do you have what it takes?

This is a call for help to all women who enjoy being pregnant and who would love to help others. Have you ever considered becoming a surrogate mother? It just may be something that could change your life! You could help build a family from the ground up and be emotionally and financially rewarded in the process.

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A surrogate mother is a special woman who helps others who physically cannot carry a child themselves. She, through IVF (In-vitro Fertilization), carries another’s person’s child in her womb and relinquishes that child to the Intended Parents when the child is born. A surrogate mother is a selfless angel helping others in their quest to become parents.

Surrogate Alternatives, Inc. (SAI) has the best “surro-sister” mentoring program in the world. These women have all been surrogates themselves and work alongside new surrogate mothers every step of the way. There are monthly support group meetings, family events and weekend retreats twice a year for all of their surrogate mothers to attend. The staff are always available to answer any and all questions you have and even attend doctor visits with you if you so desire. They hold hands and guide lives. Every woman has a different experience. Some carry twins, some help IP’s from around the world, some want a little involvement others want a lot. The additional support that SAI provides enriches every one of these journeys.

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SAI needs you! If you meet the following criteria for their program, call them today!

1) You have to have given birth to at least one of your own and are raising that child
2) You cannot be not on welfare, AFDC or housing assistance.
3) You are between the ages of 21-40 (if you are older than 38, you have to have delivered in the past two years).
4) You cannot have had any serious medical conditions during your pregnancy or delivery.
5) You must be able to provide medical and delivery records, if requested.
6) You must have a vehicle and a valid driver’s license to be able to attend your doctor appointments.
7) You must be willing to be tested for STD’s and undergo a drug screening.
8) You must have a stable residence with no plans of moving out of your state from the time you submit your application to delivery.
9) You must agree to a background check and a psychological screening.

The total fees you receive are between $35,000-$50,000. Repeat surrogate fees are higher. Keep in mind that this is just an estimate for pain and suffering and reimbursement. If you are solely relying on this as income, this is not the “job” for you.

Becoming a surrogate mother is not for everyone. Those who choose to become surrogates are uniquely special women. Some of these ladies find the experience so richly rewarding that they choose to continue on and help more than one couple.

If you think YOU could be someone’s angel and give them ultimate gift: the gift of sacrifice, compassion and love; you may just have what it takes to be a surrogate mother. The rewards go above and beyond any monetary gain and it is an experience you will never forget.

If you feel you are that kind of person, apply with SAI today and see where this path takes you.

SAI’s office number is (619) 397-0757

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Where’s The Baby?…casual encounters of a surrogate.

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My neighbor comes out and takes her kids to school at the same time I do almost every morning (they go to a different school otherwise we’d totally car pool). We’re not close, but we’re civil: “Hi,” “Good Morning,” “Going to be cold isn’t it?” that kind of thing.  She saw how I was pregnant throughout the year but we never really talked about it. She smiled at the bump and asked if it was a girl or a boy? I just said “girl” and smiled back.  We’re in that morning rush and I wasn’t going to pull her aside to tell her I’m a surrogate, explain the whole deal to her, and make our kids late to school and most likely freak her out in the process. It just wasn’t convenient.

Well, after I had delivered and was up on my feet again taking the girls to school, she sees me. Clearly not pregnant anymore and… no baby anywhere… no car seat… no nothing. I said “Good morning”, smiled and pulled away. I could tell she was thoroughly confused. Her eyes were processing. Should she be apologetic, sympathetic? Had something terrible happened? But I was happy, not grieving? What had I done with the child! The next few times we saw each other, I could tell she was clearly baffled but she never brought it up and since then she doesn’t really speak to me at all. I can tell I unsettle her but I don’t feel like I need to explain my life to an almost stranger. I’m friendly and open so maybe someday she’ll ask. Especially now that I’m going to do it again 🙂

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I’ve had many similar situations with the people I see on a daily basis. The ones you’re not close to but are friendly enough to say hello to. The crossing guard at my daughter’s school, my bank teller, the lady who always seems to get in the elevator at the same time I do, the dad picking up his son in my daughter’s class, every one of these people has made casual remarks about me being pregnant. I’ll vaguely answer “It’s a girl,” “due in September,” or “I don’t know the name yet.”  And if I have the time or I feel comfortable enough around them I’ll tell them what’s what and that: “it’s not mine”, or “I’m a surrogate.” I never, ever know how they’ll react. I had the check-out lady at Target come around the register, give me a big hug, a kiss on the cheek, and with tears in her eyes tell me what a wonderful thing I was doing; since her daughter couldn’t conceive and she knew how I was changing someone’s life. That was totally unexpected and made me cry (also I was hormonal from being pregnant at the time). I had a man look at me in disgust and snidely remark to his wife that he could never allow her to “sell a baby”. My husband had to pull me away at that point (again, hormonal and would most likely have ripped him a new one).

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There was that one time I was out with my 5 year old and a woman made a comment to her about getting a little brother or sister and my daughter looked up at her and quipped “It’s not even ours.”  I’ve never seen a woman walk away so quickly without trying to look like it. Awkward! But I have to admit I laughed after she left.

My kids have been great with this. They absolutely loved everything about me being a surrogate for another couple. They don’t want any more sibling competition and are happy that Mommy is helping others to become parents too. They get it. I think it clicked more easily for them than it did with my friends. I have found that my 8 year old had been telling her teacher and all her school friends about me before I had a chance to myself. Her teacher then bragged to other teachers about what I was doing so that when I went in to tell her, everyone knew already and it was no big deal.

People will always amaze you. For better or worse. I have found it’s usually for the better. And what’s more amazing is that surrogacy is becoming “The New Normal.” People tend to just be curious these days instead of ignorant or closed minded. There is a part of me who wants to get a pamphlet printed out entitled: So the Woman you’re Speaking to is a Surrogate: 10 most FAQ’s. That way I can just be like “here you go… talk to me if you have any questions, my number is on the back.” Because that has happened! I’ve had not one but two friends of friends who have heard what I have done, asked for my phone number and have picked my brain about the whole thing. It’s amazing. When I signed up to become a surrogate I didn’t even think about these situations occurring in my life; but I’m sure glad they have. It’s a whole new world out there.

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Hurry Up and Wait… from matching to contracts to cycling

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What many people don’t realize is that with surrogacy, there are many steps to take before you can even start trying to become pregnant.

A woman who wishes to become a surrogate fills out a super long, in-depth application; gets checked out physically and mentally; and has her background checked to make sure she isn’t really the missing Anastasia. Then she waits to hear back from the agency for the green light.

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If she’s cleared, she’s put in a database with other women in the same situation and waits to be chosen by an Intended Parent (IP). It’s up to the agency to find and match suitable surrogates with IPs. You want to be on this journey with someone you get along or “click” with. This is very important and sometimes it’s an instantaneous click and sometimes it’s not. Even if a woman has been a surrogate before she still has to go through this process each time she re-applies.

Once this stage of the process is complete–and it can take months to get matched–she steps into the legal process. A legal contract for both parties to review is provided by the IP’s lawyer and reviewed with the surrogate by her lawyer. Luckily, SAI works with specially trained fertility-law specialists who know what they are doing and have been doing it for decades. However, the law is the law. There are mountains of paperwork which are a necessary evil (and a good sleeping aid) to get through.

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After everything is all legal eagle–which can take a month or more–it’s time to either match up cycles with the egg donor or IP (if using fresh embryos) or straight on to the poking and prodding (if the IPs have frozen embryos). Either way, this is part of the journey usually takes another month and is full of fun things like vaginal ultrasounds, peeing in a cup, different hormonal injections and daily medication. When using a gestational surrogate, the body must be “tricked” into thinking it’s pregnant so it won’t reject a foreign embryo. Hooray for science! But again… it’s the wait is about another month or so.

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In my personal experience, these three steps can take anywhere from 3-6 months’ time to achieve pregnancy, if it works on the 1st go round. Patience is a virtue and the rewards are well worth it in the end. So as Dori from Finding Nemo would say: “Just keep swimming”…….You’ll get there.

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Considering becoming a surrogate mother?

If you are considering about becoming a surrogate mother and helping someone in need, there are many things you will need to know.

It is very important that a woman prepare herself physically as well as mentally for the process and ultimately, the pregnancy. Becoming pregnant will change your body, your emotions and possible even your relationships, even though this change will only be temporary. You will experience the same emotions, food cravings and weight gain that all women go through when they are pregnant.

Another thing many women are not prepared for when they decide to become a surrogate is experiencing the movements, kicks and turns of the baby growing inside their womb and the effect they may have on them. This may make it harder when the time comes for delivery. Once the baby is born the child you have carried for 9 months will belong to and go home with their parents. A girl who decides to become a surrogate mother must remember the reason behind her decision. In the end, the baby she has carried around inside her womb will be given to the new parents.

Morning sickness and fatigue are common symptoms many women experience, including surrogate mothers. Just because the baby is not your biological child does not mean your pregnancy will be any different. Every pregnancy is unpredictable and different.

A surrogate mother will experience labor and delivery just as if the baby being born belongs to her. The pains will still be there, including the recovery time, especially if the child is to be delivered by C-section. While all deliveries are different, the birthing process is the same no matter how you look at it. Once the baby is born, the pains of labor will be gone. Your body will need time to bounce back to your pre-pregnancy state. Remember, the weight gain should be lost a slow, healthy rate. Take care of your body while you are pregnant and your weight will be that much easier to lose.

It takes a very strong & compassionate person to commit to becoming a surrogate mother. Many couples are eagerly waiting for an angel like you with your strength and sacrifice so they, too, may have the baby they have always dreamed of.

Reasons For Infertility

ImageInfertility specialists, support groups, fertility organizations and reproductive clinics are working night and day in research and developmental studies. They are working to discover new and safe infertility drugs that may help cure infertility problems for many couples. The problem or the cause of infertility can be divided into two areas, female infertility and male infertility.

There are possibly hundreds of reasons behind male and female infertility and their treatment depends upon the type of the problem. A few of the most common reasons of male infertility are smoking, alcohol use, drugs, environmental factors, genetic disorders, and age.

 

For women, infertility problems can be more complex and often misunderstood. The most common reasons for infertility in women are fibroids in the uterus, blocked fallopian tubes, genetic problems, urinary infections, poor diet and insufficient vitamins and minerals.

With so many causes for infertility, doctors have dedicated years to research and conducted trials with patients approval in order to find a cure for infertility. Doctors need to know the exact reason why a woman cannot become pregnant before he or she can lead the patient in the right direction. Sometimes, even after a series of medical tests for infertility, doctors fail to discover or understand the exact reason of their patient’s infertility problem. This condition is often called an unexplained infertility. There are many patients who become so stressed and upset over the fact they cannot have a baby, which leads from mild to severe cases of depression. In females, chances of unexplained infertility increase with age. Generally speaking, women over the age of 35 have more difficulty conceiving a baby, especially when infertility has been a problem for a long time. It has also been proven that women who delay pregnancy treatment have a lower chance of getting pregnant than those who seek treatment as soon as they know they have a medical issue.

 
Today, many women who thought they would never have a baby are enjoying a family they never expected. Medical treatments include IVF, IUI, utilizing the assistance of a surrogate mother or egg donor and many others. Among the many choices available today, IVF is a popular choice. Talk to your doctor today about the options available to you.

 

Just think, a whole new life may be waiting for you!

A Surrogate shares her story

My First surrogacy journey

Back in 2005 I started researching information about surrogacy. I wanted to be able to stay home with my one year old daughter and still contribute to our family’s income. What better way than to be able to carry someone’s baby for them! Afterall, I loved being pregnant! I read up and learned that there are two types of surrogacy, traditional and gestational. I thought gestational surrogacy would be a better fit for me, personally (I would only be the carrier).

I saw two ads in local magazines about agency’s looking for surrogate mothers. I thought to myself I could REALLY do this. I called the first agency, the lady on the phone was not friendly and not warm at all. I decided to call another agency, which was “Surrogate Alternatives.” When I called, the woman who answered was so happy to speak with me, and gave me so much information about the entire process. I was excited to get the process started!

My first surrogacy journey was with a wonderful couple who just wanted to have the joy of becoming parents! We started our friendship immediately with phone conversations and emails. We discussed our options if the IVF transfer did not take. They did not ever want to give up. Then I received my calendar and soon, I knew I would begin hormone medications. It was all worth it to me, to help this couple become parents. The medications made me very emotional and tired, but I became determined. Especially because of the friendship between myself and my couple. Then we received our calendar of dates from our IVF physician. We could not wait till our embryo transfer date!

The IVF transfer day came and my emotions were running deep. My husband was there with me for support. I couldn’t believe that I could possibly be pregnant today! I definitely felt pregnant with all the hormone injections and medication I was taking. The bed rest part was so boring, considering I am used to being an on-the-go girl with my kids, so three days where I am only able to use the rest room was VERY hard on me. Luckily I had my husband and kids to make me meals, they were so good too me! My Intended Parents also made me a goodie bag full of magazines, books and DVD’s to help pass the time. Once my bed rest was complete, I went on with normal life. I felt more tired than usual due to the medications, or I so thought. I took a home pregnancy test 10 days after the embryo transfer and it came up POSITIVE! I was so thrilled for my couple, but I knew not to get my hopes up until the HCG blood draw.

Finally, the date came and the blood results were as I hoped, positive with a strong number of 189. We were so excited for the upcoming ultrasound. It seemed like there was always something to look forward to on this wonderful journey.

During the ultrasound, we discovered there was one healthy strong heartbeat. We recorded the ultrasound because the Intended Parents could not be there, due to distance. But they were immediately contacted after the ultrasound to let them know the results. I was so excited to start this wonderful journey for Intended Parents that so deserved to be parents. I was so happy to be part of this journey with them.

The pregnancy was very uneventful and I gave routine updates to my Intended Parents every two weeks. I loved to hear the excitement in their voice during our calls. At Christmas time, I went to have a special 4D ultrasound done, that way they could find out the sex of the baby as their Christmas present. We found out on December 23rd it was a GIRL! I mailed them the DVD and all of the pictures, I even included a stuffed animal that had a recording of their daughter’s heart beat. They loved it! Our friendship become stronger, they told me they appreciated everything I was doing for them. I let them know, that this is something I chose to do, and I was thrilled they were going to be parents.

After every month that went by, we got more excited for the upcoming birth. The Intended Parents came to California about a month before my due date. We went out to dinner, to the movies, and did all sorts of activities. Then the BIG day came for my scheduled c-section. We were lucky enough to have a delivery nurse allow the Intended Mother to come in to the OR for the delivery. Right when her daughter was born, she was given straight to her Mother. It was amazing! Seeing my surrogate daughter being held by HER Mother for the first time was indescribable. There were no words for it! The relationship I now have with them is still wonderful. We both consider each other, extended family always. I receive pictures every month, and I enjoy seeing my surrogate daughter grow up. I love that I was a part of the beginning of her existence……

Infertility Options for Intended Parents

Surrogate ParentingJust as there are many reasons parents may choose non-traditional ways to bear a child, there are many infertility options available to help them have the child they want. Those options include adoption, in vitro fertilization (IVF), traditional surrogacy and gestational surrogacy. The choice among the various infertility options is a very personal one. What’s right for in one situation may be uncomfortable in another. Parents exploring the various options to deal with infertility can and should explore the options available and choose the one that feels the most right to them.
Adoption needs little introduction, but parents may be unaware of the many ways that adoptions have changed over the past few decades. If adoption is a consideration, the intended parents should explore the differences between open and closed adoptions, as well as the many variations of each.
IVF, or in vitro fertilization, involves extracting eggs from the mother or from an egg donor, fertilizing them in vitro, then implanting the fertilized embryo into the mother, or into the womb of a surrogate who will carry the baby to term. IVF is one of the more commonly chosen infertility options, and it is often only one part of the final decision that the intended parents make.
For many mothers, endometriosis interferes with the ability to conceive or to carry a pregnancy to term. Surrogacy is an option in those cases where the mother is unable to carry a pregnancy to term, but where the parents prefer a child that bears a biological connection to one or both of the parents.
Gestational surrogacy, where the surrogate is impregnated with an embryo that has been fertilized in vitro, is one of the newest infertility options. In gestational surrogacy, the pregnancy is carried to term by a surrogate. The embryo may include the egg and sperm of one or both of the intended parents, or neither of them.
The choice of medical provider and clinic can be as important as the choice of method. Every clinic and organization is different, not only in the services they offer but in the character and mood of the organization. The range of services offered at an infertility clinic may include case management, counseling and assistance in choosing the right infertility option, IVF and even assistance in choosing the surrogate who is best suited for the intended parents.
Thanks to modern science, the inability to conceive or bear a child no longer makes it impossible for parents to have a child that is genetically related to either or both of them. Clinics that specialize in treating infertility offer a range of infertility options that may be the right one for each situation.

For help and additional information, please visit us at www.surrogatealternatives.com

Surrogate Alternatives Can Help!

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Established in 1998, Surrogate Alternatives, Inc. (SAI) has been in business longer than any other agency in San Diego, CA. Our history includes over 1,200 clients, 750 births and a dedicated support team to help make the process of third-party reproduction as worry-free as possible. Our staff of 10 include: 2 highly experienced directors, 2 client coordinators, 3 support staff team members and 3 marketing associates.

We are proud to welcome to our team, as of August 1st, The Law Office of Falletta and Klein as Lead Counsel. Falletta and Klein have practice in the area of Surrogacy, Sperm and Egg Donation for nearly 3 decades and their joint experience and passion for the field of family building, come across to our clients.

We look forward to being of assistance should you have questions about Surrogacy, Egg Donation, choosing a Surrogate Mother or Egg Donor or media requests.

We can be reached at any of the following websites: http://www.SurrogateAlternatives.com, http://www.AffordableSurrogacy.com or http://www.Surro.com. You can also follow us on Facebook, LinkedIn & Twitter.

Selecting a Surrogate Mother

 Clients, who initiate contact with an agency to learn more about becoming parents through Surrogacy and/or Egg Donation, are referred to, in our industry, as Intended Parents or (IP’s).  A Surrogate is known as a (GS or GC) and an Egg Donor is referred to as an (ED).  By using these terms, it keeps things simple.

There are two completely different types of Surrogacy arrangements; Traditional and Gestational.  Traditional Surrogacy is where the Surrogate Mother is artificially inseminated with the sperm from the Intended Parent (or donor sperm) and the Surrogate is considered the biological mother to the baby she is carrying.  The Surrogate has a 50% genetic tie to the child she gives birth to.  With the technology available today and the process of IVF so successful, most people who select Surrogate Mothers prefer to choose a Gestational Surrogate.

 

Gestational Surrogacy allows the Intended Parents to use their own genetic material (eggs and sperm) and the Surrogate merely assists them by providing her uterus in which the child will grow to term in 9 months.  In cases where the Intended Mother cannot provide her own eggs, she is able to select an Egg Donor who has similar features as she. There is much more flexibility in Gestational Surrogacy, as well as the increased chances of success.

In Gestational Surrogacy, the physician is able to place more than one embryo into the Surrogates uterus to increase the changes of a successful pregnancy.  With Traditional Surrogacy, quite often multiple attempts are required to achieve the same result.  With Gestational Surrogacy, there is also the increased chance of a multiple pregnancy.

Twins are common in IVF and through Surrogate Alternatives, we have seen a 40% twin rate or higher on a yearly basis for the last 6 years.

INVESTIGATING THE AGENCY’S CREDENTIALS:

There are many agencies able to assist you, in different states and countries. However, always make sure to do your due diligence and investigate each agency completely before committing to them financially or emotionally.

The following are things you should make sure to ask:

  • How long have they been in business, (specifically, the date they received their business license)
  • How many clients have they assisted and how many babies have been born through their agency
  • Do they have any pending lawsuits or have they been sued in the past
  • Are they a member of the Better Business Bureau (BBB), this organization is key to a good company
  • Do they list all expected costs on their Fee Sheet or are there hidden costs not listed or explained
  • Have any of their clients had problems returning to their Country after their child was born
  • Do they have a reference list of previous clients that are willing to speak with you
  • Make sure their website shows the history they say they have
  • Is their staff large enough to accommodate you and provide you with the service you deserve
  • Do they have Available Surrogates, if so, can they rematch you right away if your surrogate backs out
  • Do they carry business insurance-Most agencies don’t and they should, this is very important

CHOOSING TO RETAIN THE AGENCY:

Most agencies require a signed retainer agreement before even disclosing the number of available surrogates or allowing you to view their profiles. This is common practice and done because agencies want to know you are serious about the process, however, if you like an agency and this is the only thing holding you back, be sure to tell them you want to see profiles of who they have available before committing to them financially. A good agency will be accommodating to your needs.

Once you are ready to retain the agency, they will usually request that you return the completed questionnaire/profile, submit photos to include with your profile, medical release authorization for each party, the retainer agreement and pay the required agency fee. Once all of these steps are done, the agency puts your profile together and shares it with the surrogate you have an interest in.

THE SURROGATE SELECTION PROCESS:

Each Intended Parent has a different idea of how to choose a Surrogate or what they are looking for in one. For many, a Surrogate with insurance that will cover her maternity and delivery care is important, also, a Surrogate who doesn’t work, (no lost wages) or a Surrogate who has only delivered vaginally in the past (less chance of a C-section). The list goes on and on, but the key to selecting a Surrogate is to ask the case manager their idea of who would be a good fit for you. They have read both your profile and the Surrogates, many times met the Surrogates in person and after meeting or talking with you, they have a pretty good idea of who you would be compatible with. Then, go from there on your requests, until you have 1-2 strong candidates selected and are ready to initiate contact. The case manager will arrange for a phone call between you and the Surrogate or if you are in town or live locally, an in-person meeting is always preferred. Nowadays, with Skype, many matches are made this way.

THE LEGAL PROCESS TO MAKE YOUR MATCH OFFICIAL: 

Now that you have selected a Surrogate, she will undergo the screening process where she will have a criminal background check conducted, she will meet with a psychologist who will interview her, an infertility doctor who will examine her uterus, review her pregnancy and health history and do a complete blood and urine panel and her attorney, with whom will review and assist her in agreeing to the contract terms. An agency should provide your attorney, who is referred to as the drafting attorney, with a document called or referred to as a SBP (Surrogate Benefit Package). This document explains in detail, the fees the Surrogate is entitled to receive and during what time periods. They incorporate this document into the legal agreement to ensure the agency’s fee structure remains intact and the fees you have been informed of do not change.

If you select a proven Surrogate, some of her fees WILL be higher, so always ask the agency for the fees she is requesting, so you are not surprised later on.

Once the legal contract is signed by you and her, the infertility clinic will give you a cycle calendar with the medication start dates as well as the estimated date of embryo transfer or insemination attempt (for a Traditional Surrogate).

SUGGESTED LINKS:

 

1. Surrogate Alternatives, Inc. (SAI)

 

2. Internet Health Resources (IHR)

 

3. Information on Surrogacy 

 

4. The Law Offices of Falletta & Klein

Becoming a Surrogate-Where to Begin…

Surrogate Mother Pregnancy

A Pregnant Surrogate

For anyone considering becoming a Surrogate, you must know there are two types of Surrogacy. Before the medical advances of IVF or (In Vitro Fertilization), the only option in third-party reproduction was Traditional Surrogacy. Traditional Surrogacy is where the Surrogate Mother is artificially inseminated with the sperm from the Intended Parent and the Surrogate is the biological mother to the baby she is carrying. There is a 50% genetic tie to that child and for this reason, most people who select Surrogate Mothers nowadays prefer to choose Gestational Surrogates.

Gestational Surrogacy allows the Intended Parents to use their own genetic makeup (eggs and sperm) and the Surrogate merely assists them by providing her uterus in which the child will grow to term in 9 months. In cases where the Intended Mother cannot provide her own eggs, she is able to select an Egg Donor who has similar features as she. There is much more flexibility in Gestational Surrogacy, as well as the increased chances of success.

In Gestational Surrogacy, the physician is able to place more than one embryo into the Surrogates uterus to increase the changes of a successful pregnancy. With Traditional Surrogacy, quite often multiple attempts are required to achieve the same result.

If you are trying to decide between signing up with an agency or finding Intended Parents on your own, there are a few things to consider. A Surrogate Agency can provide you and your Intended Parents with the following benefits:

1. Quality Service and Support

2. Presenting your profile to couples

3. Sharing their profile with you

4. Arranging the initial meeting

5. Scheduling your screening appointments

6. A friendly voice when you have questions or concerns

7. Experience and Knowledge of this field

8. Fund Management to ensure your payments are made on time

9. Mediation if a situation arises that you are uncomfortable with

10. Ensuring insurance is in place to cover your pregnancy and birth

Many people choose to place an ad online and wait for potential Intended Parents to find them. The Surrogate then has to negotiate with them on the amount she is asking for her fee and reimbursable expenses. It can be a longer process and there is no protection should one of the Intended Parents lose their job 5 months into the pregnancy when you have not received your full compensation or the insurance payments lapse due to non-payment. The risks are high and unless you elect to help a family member or do a compassionate surrogacy, an agency is experienced in handling almost any crisis and makes sure your best interest in protected.

Why should I become a Surrogate, how can someone give away their child, aren’t people going to think I am selling my baby? These are some of the questions I hear from people who are intrigued by the idea, but are afraid of the public criticism of their choice. Surrogacy offers a unique, and oftentimes, immensely fulfilling experience for women who enjoy being pregnant, and have the strong desire to help others facing infertility. Surrogates not only benefit financially, but the emotional rewards are worth more than the money to many women who are Surrogates. Each agency offers different compensation packages which typically include the following:

1. Monthly Stipend that begins the month after contract execution ($150-$400)

2. Monthly Stipend that begin the month after confirmation of pregnancy ($1,500-$2,600)

3. Maternity Clothing and expense allowance ($500-$1,000)

4. Health and Life Insurance for a Minimum of 1 year

5. Misc. Expenses such as travel, invasive procedures, etc…

Ultimately, the best thing you can do is research this unique field, make the choice that is right for you and choose a couple you feel a connection with. The experience can be remarkable, inspiring even, but the key is to surround yourself with a solid, respectable team of professionals who have the knowledge to ensure you receive the outcome you are hoping for.

REFERENCES:

1. An IVF Clinic-La Jolla IVF

2. An Reproductive Law Specialist-IFLG

3. A Psychologist who is also the parent of Surrogate Twins-Dr. Sylvia Marnella, Ph.D.

4. A Surrogate and Egg Donation Agency-Surrogate Alternatives, Inc. (SAI)