This is a call for help to all women who enjoy being pregnant and who would love to help others. Have you ever considered becoming a surrogate mother? It just may be something that could change your life! You could help build a family from the ground up and be emotionally and financially rewarded in the process.
A surrogate mother is a special woman who helps others who physically cannot carry a child themselves. She, through IVF (In-vitro Fertilization), carries another’s person’s child in her womb and relinquishes that child to the Intended Parents when the child is born. A surrogate mother is a selfless angel helping others in their quest to become parents.
Surrogate Alternatives, Inc. (SAI) has the best “surro-sister” mentoring program in the world. These women have all been surrogates themselves and work alongside new surrogate mothers every step of the way. There are monthly support group meetings, family events and weekend retreats twice a year for all of their surrogate mothers to attend. The staff are always available to answer any and all questions you have and even attend doctor visits with you if you so desire. They hold hands and guide lives. Every woman has a different experience. Some carry twins, some help IP’s from around the world, some want a little involvement others want a lot. The additional support that SAI provides enriches every one of these journeys.
SAI needs you! If you meet the following criteria for their program, call them today!
1) You have to have given birth to at least one of your own and are raising that child
2) You cannot be not on welfare, AFDC or housing assistance.
3) You are between the ages of 21-40 (if you are older than 38, you have to have delivered in the past two years).
4) You cannot have had any serious medical conditions during your pregnancy or delivery.
5) You must be able to provide medical and delivery records, if requested.
6) You must have a vehicle and a valid driver’s license to be able to attend your doctor appointments.
7) You must be willing to be tested for STD’s and undergo a drug screening.
8) You must have a stable residence with no plans of moving out of your state from the time you submit your application to delivery.
9) You must agree to a background check and a psychological screening.
The total fees you receive are between $35,000-$50,000. Repeat surrogate fees are higher. Keep in mind that this is just an estimate for pain and suffering and reimbursement. If you are solely relying on this as income, this is not the “job” for you.
Becoming a surrogate mother is not for everyone. Those who choose to become surrogates are uniquely special women. Some of these ladies find the experience so richly rewarding that they choose to continue on and help more than one couple.
If you think YOU could be someone’s angel and give them ultimate gift: the gift of sacrifice, compassion and love; you may just have what it takes to be a surrogate mother. The rewards go above and beyond any monetary gain and it is an experience you will never forget.
If you feel you are that kind of person, apply with SAI today and see where this path takes you.
SAI’s office number is (619) 397-0757
What many people don’t realize is that with surrogacy, there are many steps to take before you can even start trying to become pregnant.
A woman who wishes to become a surrogate fills out a super long, in-depth application; gets checked out physically and mentally; and has her background checked to make sure she isn’t really the missing Anastasia. Then she waits to hear back from the agency for the green light.
If she’s cleared, she’s put in a database with other women in the same situation and waits to be chosen by an Intended Parent (IP). It’s up to the agency to find and match suitable surrogates with IPs. You want to be on this journey with someone you get along or “click” with. This is very important and sometimes it’s an instantaneous click and sometimes it’s not. Even if a woman has been a surrogate before she still has to go through this process each time she re-applies.
Once this stage of the process is complete–and it can take months to get matched–she steps into the legal process. A legal contract for both parties to review is provided by the IP’s lawyer and reviewed with the surrogate by her lawyer. Luckily, SAI works with specially trained fertility-law specialists who know what they are doing and have been doing it for decades. However, the law is the law. There are mountains of paperwork which are a necessary evil (and a good sleeping aid) to get through.
After everything is all legal eagle–which can take a month or more–it’s time to either match up cycles with the egg donor or IP (if using fresh embryos) or straight on to the poking and prodding (if the IPs have frozen embryos). Either way, this is part of the journey usually takes another month and is full of fun things like vaginal ultrasounds, peeing in a cup, different hormonal injections and daily medication. When using a gestational surrogate, the body must be “tricked” into thinking it’s pregnant so it won’t reject a foreign embryo. Hooray for science! But again… it’s the wait is about another month or so.
In my personal experience, these three steps can take anywhere from 3-6 months’ time to achieve pregnancy, if it works on the 1st go round. Patience is a virtue and the rewards are well worth it in the end. So as Dori from Finding Nemo would say: “Just keep swimming”…….You’ll get there.
If you are considering about becoming a surrogate mother and helping someone in need, there are many things you will need to know.
It is very important that a woman prepare herself physically as well as mentally for the process and ultimately, the pregnancy. Becoming pregnant will change your body, your emotions and possible even your relationships, even though this change will only be temporary. You will experience the same emotions, food cravings and weight gain that all women go through when they are pregnant.
Another thing many women are not prepared for when they decide to become a surrogate is experiencing the movements, kicks and turns of the baby growing inside their womb and the effect they may have on them. This may make it harder when the time comes for delivery. Once the baby is born the child you have carried for 9 months will belong to and go home with their parents. A girl who decides to become a surrogate mother must remember the reason behind her decision. In the end, the baby she has carried around inside her womb will be given to the new parents.
Morning sickness and fatigue are common symptoms many women experience, including surrogate mothers. Just because the baby is not your biological child does not mean your pregnancy will be any different. Every pregnancy is unpredictable and different.
A surrogate mother will experience labor and delivery just as if the baby being born belongs to her. The pains will still be there, including the recovery time, especially if the child is to be delivered by C-section. While all deliveries are different, the birthing process is the same no matter how you look at it. Once the baby is born, the pains of labor will be gone. Your body will need time to bounce back to your pre-pregnancy state. Remember, the weight gain should be lost a slow, healthy rate. Take care of your body while you are pregnant and your weight will be that much easier to lose.
It takes a very strong & compassionate person to commit to becoming a surrogate mother. Many couples are eagerly waiting for an angel like you with your strength and sacrifice so they, too, may have the baby they have always dreamed of.
Infertility specialists, support groups, fertility organizations and reproductive clinics are working night and day in research and developmental studies. They are working to discover new and safe infertility drugs that may help cure infertility problems for many couples. The problem or the cause of infertility can be divided into two areas, female infertility and male infertility.
There are possibly hundreds of reasons behind male and female infertility and their treatment depends upon the type of the problem. A few of the most common reasons of male infertility are smoking, alcohol use, drugs, environmental factors, genetic disorders, and age.
For women, infertility problems can be more complex and often misunderstood. The most common reasons for infertility in women are fibroids in the uterus, blocked fallopian tubes, genetic problems, urinary infections, poor diet and insufficient vitamins and minerals.
With so many causes for infertility, doctors have dedicated years to research and conducted trials with patients approval in order to find a cure for infertility. Doctors need to know the exact reason why a woman cannot become pregnant before he or she can lead the patient in the right direction. Sometimes, even after a series of medical tests for infertility, doctors fail to discover or understand the exact reason of their patient’s infertility problem. This condition is often called an unexplained infertility. There are many patients who become so stressed and upset over the fact they cannot have a baby, which leads from mild to severe cases of depression. In females, chances of unexplained infertility increase with age. Generally speaking, women over the age of 35 have more difficulty conceiving a baby, especially when infertility has been a problem for a long time. It has also been proven that women who delay pregnancy treatment have a lower chance of getting pregnant than those who seek treatment as soon as they know they have a medical issue.
Today, many women who thought they would never have a baby are enjoying a family they never expected. Medical treatments include IVF, IUI, utilizing the assistance of a surrogate mother or egg donor and many others. Among the many choices available today, IVF is a popular choice. Talk to your doctor today about the options available to you.
Just think, a whole new life may be waiting for you!
Clients, who initiate contact with an agency to learn more about becoming parents through Surrogacy and/or Egg Donation, are referred to, in our industry, as Intended Parents or (IP’s). A Surrogate is known as a (GS or GC) and an Egg Donor is referred to as an (ED). By using these terms, it keeps things simple.
There are two completely different types of Surrogacy arrangements; Traditional and Gestational. Traditional Surrogacy is where the Surrogate Mother is artificially inseminated with the sperm from the Intended Parent (or donor sperm) and the Surrogate is considered the biological mother to the baby she is carrying. The Surrogate has a 50% genetic tie to the child she gives birth to. With the technology available today and the process of IVF so successful, most people who select Surrogate Mothers prefer to choose a Gestational Surrogate.
Gestational Surrogacy allows the Intended Parents to use their own genetic material (eggs and sperm) and the Surrogate merely assists them by providing her uterus in which the child will grow to term in 9 months. In cases where the Intended Mother cannot provide her own eggs, she is able to select an Egg Donor who has similar features as she. There is much more flexibility in Gestational Surrogacy, as well as the increased chances of success.
In Gestational Surrogacy, the physician is able to place more than one embryo into the Surrogates uterus to increase the changes of a successful pregnancy. With Traditional Surrogacy, quite often multiple attempts are required to achieve the same result. With Gestational Surrogacy, there is also the increased chance of a multiple pregnancy.
Twins are common in IVF and through Surrogate Alternatives, we have seen a 40% twin rate or higher on a yearly basis for the last 6 years.
INVESTIGATING THE AGENCY’S CREDENTIALS:
There are many agencies able to assist you, in different states and countries. However, always make sure to do your due diligence and investigate each agency completely before committing to them financially or emotionally.
The following are things you should make sure to ask:
- How long have they been in business, (specifically, the date they received their business license)
- How many clients have they assisted and how many babies have been born through their agency
- Do they have any pending lawsuits or have they been sued in the past
- Are they a member of the Better Business Bureau (BBB), this organization is key to a good company
- Do they list all expected costs on their Fee Sheet or are there hidden costs not listed or explained
- Have any of their clients had problems returning to their Country after their child was born
- Do they have a reference list of previous clients that are willing to speak with you
- Make sure their website shows the history they say they have
- Is their staff large enough to accommodate you and provide you with the service you deserve
- Do they have Available Surrogates, if so, can they rematch you right away if your surrogate backs out
- Do they carry business insurance-Most agencies don’t and they should, this is very important
CHOOSING TO RETAIN THE AGENCY:
Most agencies require a signed retainer agreement before even disclosing the number of available surrogates or allowing you to view their profiles. This is common practice and done because agencies want to know you are serious about the process, however, if you like an agency and this is the only thing holding you back, be sure to tell them you want to see profiles of who they have available before committing to them financially. A good agency will be accommodating to your needs.
Once you are ready to retain the agency, they will usually request that you return the completed questionnaire/profile, submit photos to include with your profile, medical release authorization for each party, the retainer agreement and pay the required agency fee. Once all of these steps are done, the agency puts your profile together and shares it with the surrogate you have an interest in.
THE SURROGATE SELECTION PROCESS:
Each Intended Parent has a different idea of how to choose a Surrogate or what they are looking for in one. For many, a Surrogate with insurance that will cover her maternity and delivery care is important, also, a Surrogate who doesn’t work, (no lost wages) or a Surrogate who has only delivered vaginally in the past (less chance of a C-section). The list goes on and on, but the key to selecting a Surrogate is to ask the case manager their idea of who would be a good fit for you. They have read both your profile and the Surrogates, many times met the Surrogates in person and after meeting or talking with you, they have a pretty good idea of who you would be compatible with. Then, go from there on your requests, until you have 1-2 strong candidates selected and are ready to initiate contact. The case manager will arrange for a phone call between you and the Surrogate or if you are in town or live locally, an in-person meeting is always preferred. Nowadays, with Skype, many matches are made this way.
THE LEGAL PROCESS TO MAKE YOUR MATCH OFFICIAL:
Now that you have selected a Surrogate, she will undergo the screening process where she will have a criminal background check conducted, she will meet with a psychologist who will interview her, an infertility doctor who will examine her uterus, review her pregnancy and health history and do a complete blood and urine panel and her attorney, with whom will review and assist her in agreeing to the contract terms. An agency should provide your attorney, who is referred to as the drafting attorney, with a document called or referred to as a SBP (Surrogate Benefit Package). This document explains in detail, the fees the Surrogate is entitled to receive and during what time periods. They incorporate this document into the legal agreement to ensure the agency’s fee structure remains intact and the fees you have been informed of do not change.
If you select a proven Surrogate, some of her fees WILL be higher, so always ask the agency for the fees she is requesting, so you are not surprised later on.
Once the legal contract is signed by you and her, the infertility clinic will give you a cycle calendar with the medication start dates as well as the estimated date of embryo transfer or insemination attempt (for a Traditional Surrogate).